In previous OFN articles, weve covered the importance of planning your life so that fitness contributes to your overall balance. But what happens if, despite good planning on your part, you wake up one morning feeling completely overwhelmed and unable to make yourself do *anything*, much less exercise? This is especially topical for me right now, because its exactly where I woke up yesterday. Yes, even those of us trained in life balance still miscalculate sometimes were only human too! Our training doesnt stop us getting out of balance occasionally but it helps us recognise it and deal with it promptly. And since I know clients whove experienced the same thing, writing about my process for getting back into balance seemed like a good idea. STEP 1: TAKE TIME OUT Sometimes, when we feel overwhelmed, were too close to the situation to see it clearly. At such times, we need time out. Dont actually *do* anything about your overwhelm during this time just rest or do something you enjoy without making demands on yourself. Even a few hours can be helpful. I cancelled yesterdays appointments then gave myself as long as I needed to doze. I knew I had work that wasnt getting done but I also knew if I tried to do it, Id just add to my exhaustion. STEP 2: EVALUATE Once youve taken a break, ask yourself whats changed recently. What are you doing more or less of than you were before? Whats started or stopped in your life since the last time you felt balanced? Dont judge whether something should affect you or not just look at facts. Whats different now? Personally, I realised that although Id planned my days well, Id stopped keeping to my plans. Id been working longer hours, and let my diet become unbalanced. On top of that, there was a personal issue Id avoided dealing with that was stealing my energy resources. STEP 3: MAKE PLANS Once you know whats changed, explore what you can do about it. How simple this process is will depend on your circumstances. If your life was fairly balanced before the overwhelm hit, it may only need a few lifestyle tweaks. If not, it may be more complex. Either way, work with where you are now. Remember that there are many resources available to help you experts you can ask, friends who might have suggestions, articles, books and websites. In my case, I wrote a grocery list that included foods rich in the nutrients I was going short on, re-planned my day more realistically, and acknowledged my need to do something about the issue Id been avoiding. STEP 4: ACT ON YOUR PLANS After identifying what needs doing, the next step is to do it. At this point, getting help (whether from a friend or an expert) is always valuable. Remember you may not be able to act on your plans immediately some plans will be short-term, others will be longer. Beware of trying to do too much too fast chances are thats exactly what exhausted you to start with! In my case, I talked things over with a friend, then looked at what I could act on. Some actions were short-term (eating a meal containing the foods Id bought, and talking to the person concerned about the issue Id been ignoring), and some longer-term (committing to my more realistic plans). STEP 5: REVIEW AND MAKE CHANGES An important part of any action plan is reviewing it and getting back into balance is no exception. Once youve implemented a change for a reasonable length of time, go back to step 2 and evaluate how well its working. Do you feel more in balance? Are you finding it easier to exercise? If not (or not as much as youd like), what else might still be out of balance? Run through steps 3, 4 and 5 again until you get the results youre looking for. If youre running out of ideas at this stage, youll definitely benefit from talking it over with an expert. The actions Id already taken brought me back into balance less than 24 hours after I hit overwhelm. If they hadnt though, Id be going through the review process right now exploring what else might need tweaking, trying it, then reviewing it in a few days. FINAL WORDS: WHAT *NOT* TO DO In the article above, Ive described my own process for moving out of overwhelm, and into balance. Id be remiss, however, if I didnt quickly tell you what Ive tried that really *doesnt* work for me: Ignoring the overwhelm and hoping it goes away Trying to muscle through with willpower Trying to deal with it completely on my own While all of these appeal to the part of me that wants to appear in control, each one leaves me even more overwhelmed than when I started! The five-step process, however, always brings me back to balance. If you have any questions about anything in this article, or youd like some expert help in balancing your life, please contact me. Otherwise, until the next issue, may every day bring you closer to your optimum life. |
